Parents are making the mistakes very often when they expect from their teenagers to behave like grown people and to be conscious that they are still kids.
In that period, young person is unidentified and confused
because of passing from childhood to the adult world. Some experts telling that
this condition is especially terrible if the child got into early adolescence
from 11 to 14 years.
Teens in that period are very sensational on that how they
look. They have need to imitate other peers and to be accepted from them.
Searching and hoping for their identity it is not unusual that they are ashamed
of their parents, thinking that they are different in behavior or appearance.
Sometimes they get completely distance from moms and dads, leading them
unconsciously to the loneliness.
That feeling surpasses most tributary attitude towards and
their peers in terms of style of clothing, hairstyles, ways of speech, choice
of music and behavior. They are avoiding every type of communication and
parents often do not know how to approach to them at all.
Experts insist on that mothers and fathers should invest
more to understand their teens and to not fight with them about earrings,
tattoos, girls and music. Sometimes they have to choose the words when they are
telling them about their style of about that how they behave and to not finish
the sentence with the “otherwise”. Criticizing and belittling the child may be
counterproductive because they will do the opposite of that what you told to
them.
This is something that every parent will experience and it
is better for them if they find out on the time how to act and what to do with
their teens. Some parents have real and big trouble with their teenagers, like
drug problems or girls are getting pregnant very early ages. That also problem
of these days.
Only and the only one solution for that is to talk with your
kids and to have better communication with them. If you are talking with your
teens about drugs, sex and other things that they can get in touch, the chance
that they will be careful or that they will not try drugs and that they will
use protection during the sex is getting the bigger. If you are not, then your
child will not be aware of the problems that they can be involved.
Sometimes it will be very hard to talk with your parents
about that things, but fathers needs to speak with their sons about that and
the mothers need to talk with their daughter about that things too and how to
protect them self. If mother talk with his son about sex, child can be ashamed
of that but he will listen, so it is important who and on what way is talking
with the teenager.
So, dear parents and dear teenagers, talk to each other.
Teenagers needs to tell problems what they have and parents need to listen
them, give them advice and the problems will be avoided.
This is the only way to succeed and to not be involved into
the problems while teenagers are growing up.
Nema komentara:
Objavi komentar